Over at RevGalBlogPals, the Matriarchs have rounded-up some favorite resources and tips appropriate to the Advent/Christmas season. I weighed in with a few of my own.
Ask the Matriarch
The question posed was about handling relationships between a church governing board, the compassionate ministries of the church (food bank/VBS outreach), and the pastor (who was new to the system). If church leadership is part of your world, I invite you to click over and add your voice in the comment section.
RevGals is a great resource for clergywomen and I invite you to join us.
Today’s Ask the Matriarch column at RevGalBlogPals addresses some logistical issues of ministering to people with special needs, especially when they live in a group home situation without family members present in church. A few matriarchs, including me, responded from our experience.
How about you? Is your church dealing with similar issues? I encourage you to click over and join the conversation. If you’re a clergywoman and don’t know about RevGalBlogPals, check it out — a world of resources and collegiality awaits you!
What’s a gal chaplain to do? I work in hospice and I try hard to be professional and do my job well. What does one do when a bereaved male claims he has “felt a connection” and asks where you “do services” or looks at you very intently in the eye and says he gets “lonely”. So far I’m just taking the professional route and ignoring the hint. Should I call him out and name it in regards to me, risking breaking the “connection” or trust? Or just continue the professional, empathic way? Does “compassionate, pastoral, good listener” equate with “possible hookup” to these guys? I am solidly married with kids and love my work.
I’m one of the Matriarchs over at RevGalBlogPals, and today’s “Ask the Matriarch” question was especially complex:
An accused sex offender has asked if I will conduct his funeral. He is terminally ill. I want to minister to this person and the family, but I am struggling. Family members were among the victims (plural) and the accused may not live long enough to see his trial. The service would be at the funeral home and cemetery, not at a church building. I believe it will be a private funeral and internment.
I could use advice on what to do – – his arrest was front page news. Since i am a pastoral caregiver, I found out that I also could be subpoenaed to testify, and now I don’t want to talk with him AT ALL.
Help me sort this out?
Click over to RevGalBlogPals to see what the Matriarchs said. Feel free to leave a comment there, even if you’re not a member of the blogring. Or you can comment here.
Peace to you today!