I took some time to respond to the #MeToo movement. I decided to focus on contempt and gender inequality in the church. You can read it over at Sojourners: I Am a Pastor and Rape Survivor. #MeToo Is an Opportunity for the Church. … [Read more...] about #MeToo Is an Opportunity for the Church
Last weekend I led a workshop called Shame: Hope & Healing in Vancouver, BC. What timing! The topic of sexual assault has been all over the news lately -- stories of powerful men held to account for past behaviors. Women have been emboldened by the #MeToo campaign and are coming forward with … [Read more...] about In the Wake of #MeToo
When I talk to groups about my memoir, one of the topics I address is the role of outrage in the Christian life. After I was raped at gunpoint I was nearly crippled by fear, terror, and fury. The world I lived in seemed outrageous to me. It's not surprising that most Christians shy away from … [Read more...] about The Role of Outrage in the Christian Life
Everyone has to leave home eventually (although I do know one fella who never did, he just outlived his parents!). Perhaps what differs is the manner in which we leave. What was it like when you left home? Did you launch happily, feeling supported and connected, or did you burn rubber on your way … [Read more...] about Can You Go Home Again?
Ever since I was a little girl I wanted to be a writer. I just never imagined I would write about rape. Instead, I imagined traveling the world to research “The 25 Most Adventurous Vacations,” or maybe I'd create a brightly colored board book about baby hippos who wear polkadot tutus. I thought … [Read more...] about Sometimes Topics Choose Us. Period.
We live at a time when sexual violence is commonplace and even sanctioned in subtle ways. The downfall of Fox News' Bill O'Reilly — followed immediately by his receiving a $25 million severance and new podcast — shows how slick and impenetrable a powerful man can be. Perhaps certain parts of a woman … [Read more...] about “Raped Perfectly”
After I got raped, one of my problems was that my thoughts were unthinkable. This problem joined other, more pressing ones. Where could I be safe? Where could I sleep? And how could I get through the impending hours of darkness? I continually felt like I was jumping out of my skin. I’ll admit … [Read more...] about When Your Thoughts Are Unthinkable
There are times when I feel sorry for myself. You too? I hate having the particular story I have. I hate that I spent years writing it down. Why did I go through all that agony? Then I get a letter like this one, and my self-pity washes away, like sidewalk chalk after a rain. What's left behind are … [Read more...] about Why I’m Glad I Wrote a Rape Memoir
Almost two months have passed since my Op-Ed appeared in "Acts of Faith" at the Washington Post, and conservative media vilified me for it. I wrote up an account of what happened and sent it to my subscribers. But as Breitbart continues to be a cultural force, and "truth" continues to be at issue, … [Read more...] about My Recent Adventures in the Public Sphere
A friend posted this on Facebook, and I thought it should get a wider airing. Here's her story: So today I had a strange and unsettling experience of finding out that there was a traffic court case that has been on my record for three years without my knowledge. But when a 2nd small traffic … [Read more...] about Guilty Until Proven Innocent
This is what pastor/scholar/author Eugene Peterson said about my book: This memoir is far more than just a moving narrative by a remarkable person (although it is that). It is a story of lived theology: everything that has to do with God and the Gospel written in the language of everyday … [Read more...] about “Ruined: a memoir”
I have an article up at the Washington Post today, in the "Acts of Faith" section. It has a long title: Our culture of purity celebrates the Virgin Mary. As a rape victim, that hurts me. … [Read more...] about The Virgin Mary & Me